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Oh!: Sex educators speak to students about female orgasm
by Kristin Vorce
Issue date: 10/19/07 Section: News
More than 700 university students gathered Monday night to discuss one subject that will not appear on most midterm exams, but is arguably just as important - the female orgasm.
Professional sex educators and couple Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller spoke about embracing female sexuality to students at Trabant University Center.
"People don't get the chance to talk about women's sexuality and orgasms," Solot said, "but this is a really fun topic."
Miller said sex education often focuses on how to say "no" to sex or how to use contraceptives. This can become a problem when women who are ready to have sex realize saying "no" is all they ever learned.
"Let me guess some of the things you learned about in sex-ed," he said. "Did you learn about fallopian tubes? I bet you can picture those diagrams right now."
The crowd laughed. Miller said the clitoris, the primary organ for female sexual stimulation, is often overlooked in these classes. He said partners need to be patient and respectful of women's sexual needs.
"For some partners, female orgasms are not on their radar," he said. "Meanwhile, the women in their lives are like, 'Um, hello? I want an orgasm, too.' "
On average, it takes a woman 20 minutes of direct stimulation to have an orgasm, Solot said. For men, it takes approximately two to five minutes.
She emphasized the importance of communication between partners in the bedroom.
"There's a myth that a man should be able to walk up to a complete stranger and touch her body and without exchanging any words, give her orgasms all night long," Solot said.
She said in order to experience sexual pleasure, a woman must befriend her body by masturbating and forgetting about the ideals of beauty dictated by mainstream media.
"It is incredibly common for women to think there is something wrong with their genitals," Solot said.
Solot was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was 26. She said she noticed a lump on her breast while she was casually touching herself one day. She told her doctor, who ran tests and found the lump was cancerous. Solot is now in her seventh year of remission.
"The fact that I was comfortable with my body saved my life," she said.
Solot and Miller have presented more than 350 programs around the country at universities, businesses, churches, conferences and adult-education centers. The couple published the book "I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide" in March 2007.
This was the second year the National Organization for Women Campus Action Network organized the event.
Before the presentation, senior Curt Warren said he did not know what to expect.
"My girlfriend drove me here," Warren said.
His girlfriend, senior Maggie Morris laughed.
"He doesn't really have a choice," Morris said.
Freshman Derek Lapiska also attended the program with a girl. He said the girl's roommate was supposed to come as well, but at the last minute she decided against it.
"Our whole goal was to come here and pick up tips to compete with each other," Lapiska said.
Freshman Jackie Stevens said was interested in learning about the female orgasm because she attended a preparatory school where sex education was not a part of the curriculum.
"I just decided to come to see if there was anything I could learn," Stevens said. "I wanted to know what my mother never taught me."
Female Orgasm Facts
- Half of girls have had an orgasm by the time they are 16 years old.
- 44 percent of men say their female partners always have orgasms when they have sex. 22 percent of women say they always have orgasms when they have sex.
- Approximately 1 percent of women are able to achieve orgasm solely through breast stimulation.
- 63 percent of college women say they've had multiple orgasms.
- The G-spot is named after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, the first modern doctor to write about it.
- Compiled from the I Love Female Orgasm Web site
Professional sex educators and couple Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller spoke about embracing female sexuality to students at Trabant University Center.
"People don't get the chance to talk about women's sexuality and orgasms," Solot said, "but this is a really fun topic."
Miller said sex education often focuses on how to say "no" to sex or how to use contraceptives. This can become a problem when women who are ready to have sex realize saying "no" is all they ever learned.
"Let me guess some of the things you learned about in sex-ed," he said. "Did you learn about fallopian tubes? I bet you can picture those diagrams right now."
The crowd laughed. Miller said the clitoris, the primary organ for female sexual stimulation, is often overlooked in these classes. He said partners need to be patient and respectful of women's sexual needs.
"For some partners, female orgasms are not on their radar," he said. "Meanwhile, the women in their lives are like, 'Um, hello? I want an orgasm, too.' "
On average, it takes a woman 20 minutes of direct stimulation to have an orgasm, Solot said. For men, it takes approximately two to five minutes.
She emphasized the importance of communication between partners in the bedroom.
"There's a myth that a man should be able to walk up to a complete stranger and touch her body and without exchanging any words, give her orgasms all night long," Solot said.
She said in order to experience sexual pleasure, a woman must befriend her body by masturbating and forgetting about the ideals of beauty dictated by mainstream media.
"It is incredibly common for women to think there is something wrong with their genitals," Solot said.
Solot was diagnosed with breast cancer when she was 26. She said she noticed a lump on her breast while she was casually touching herself one day. She told her doctor, who ran tests and found the lump was cancerous. Solot is now in her seventh year of remission.
"The fact that I was comfortable with my body saved my life," she said.
Solot and Miller have presented more than 350 programs around the country at universities, businesses, churches, conferences and adult-education centers. The couple published the book "I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide" in March 2007.
This was the second year the National Organization for Women Campus Action Network organized the event.
Before the presentation, senior Curt Warren said he did not know what to expect.
"My girlfriend drove me here," Warren said.
His girlfriend, senior Maggie Morris laughed.
"He doesn't really have a choice," Morris said.
Freshman Derek Lapiska also attended the program with a girl. He said the girl's roommate was supposed to come as well, but at the last minute she decided against it.
"Our whole goal was to come here and pick up tips to compete with each other," Lapiska said.
Freshman Jackie Stevens said was interested in learning about the female orgasm because she attended a preparatory school where sex education was not a part of the curriculum.
"I just decided to come to see if there was anything I could learn," Stevens said. "I wanted to know what my mother never taught me."
Female Orgasm Facts
- Half of girls have had an orgasm by the time they are 16 years old.
- 44 percent of men say their female partners always have orgasms when they have sex. 22 percent of women say they always have orgasms when they have sex.
- Approximately 1 percent of women are able to achieve orgasm solely through breast stimulation.
- 63 percent of college women say they've had multiple orgasms.
- The G-spot is named after Dr. Ernst Grafenberg, the first modern doctor to write about it.
- Compiled from the I Love Female Orgasm Web site
Viewing Comments 1 - 5 of 5
TJ
posted 10/19/07 @ 9:40 AM EST
Men are clearly more efficient (2 minutes versus 20 minutes).
I wonder if this is a function of practicing your art.
If God wanted men to be awake for their partner's orgasm, he'd have even this difference out a little more. (Continued…)
Russell Palmeri
posted 10/22/07 @ 9:44 AM EST
Well to be efficient means to be faster and better at obtaining a goal correct?
Is your goal during sex to get yourself off, get her off, make a kid, or just have some fun which may include some of thee above?
Depending on your goal, you could actually be the less efficient. (Continued…)
erica
posted 1/24/08 @ 5:08 AM EST
Greetings!
I am a third year AB Mass Communication student from Far Eastern University, Philippines. As a fulfillment of my requirements in Journalism 103, I want to ask you some questions about Viagra sold over-the counter. (Continued…)
Daisy
posted 4/16/08 @ 1:23 AM EST
I liked the article, especially the emphasis on communication in the bedroom. Good to have the statistics and facts as well. I found a you tube sneak preview of a 3 minute orgasm video put out by the Welcomed Consensus that I really liked on the subject. (Continued…)
dais
Daisy
posted 4/16/08 @ 1:47 AM EST
I liked the article, especially the emphasis on communication in the bedroom. Good to have the statistics and facts as well. I found a you tube sneak preview of a 3 minute orgasm video put out by the Welcomed Consensus that I really liked on the subject. (Continued…)
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