The Review

Issue date: 4/24/07 Section: Mosaic

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Musicians, married men, professors - at some point, everyone fantasizes about sex in risqué situations, in bizarre locations or with the person of his or her dreams.

We fantasize because we want what we can't have. That dream of you lying on a Malibu beach caressing George Clooney's salt-and-pepper locks will never happen - but who says you can't dream about him as you doze off in class?

Our minds run wild with sexy thoughts because we are afraid to express our true selves in the sack. Maybe you like it rough but your lover likes to make love - instead of confessing your true passion, you fantasize about late-night, body-throwing bang sessions.

It may be easy to live out your fantasies with your lover. In college we learn how to become professionals in the real world. You should start practicing being in that professional role - in bed. Your professor would be proud.

Nursing 101 can be a lesson on how raunchy nurses take care of their bad patients. Education major? Who doesn't like a naughty-naughty lesson from their favorite teacher?

Even if you're not in a sexy major, like political science, take a lesson from our friends Bill and Monica.

Sharing your fantasies is a way to connect and get closer with your partner. It gives them a look into your sexual personality. You can tell a lot from a person depending on whether they want to be rescued by a dashing man on a white horse or if they want to be tied up and whipped.

When someone does share his or her fantasy, he or she is taking a risk in hopes you will be supportive and not run for the door. So be careful with the looks and comments you give them. Try to smile through your utter shock and mutter some supportive words like, "OK baby, I'm glad you feel you can talk to me like this, but hell no, I will not lick your feet."

It's true, some people have some, well, unusual fantasies that they may never confess because they are dangerous, illegal or just strange. Those who dream these weird and maybe creepy thoughts know they are a little off. For some, a fantasy turns into something that gives them guilt, anxiety or fear that something is wrong with them. If you meet someone like that, tell them not to share their wack-o fantasies with you, but with someone with a Ph.D.

However, feeling guilty about a fantasy isn't a trait exclusive to wackjobs that need therapy. It could simply be a guy fantasizing about a new girl while he's in a relationship with someone else. Of course, thinking about this new girl will make him feel guilty when he kisses his girlfriend. I guess fantasizing isn't as bad as actually doing it, but if that was my man, I'd kick him to the curb.

Fantasies aren't just for the over-sexed, wild, college kid running around campus. You can fantasize about someone, something or somewhere without getting kinky with whips or whipped cream. Try it sometime. It won't hurt - unless you like being bitten.

Take your fantasies out of your head and bring them to bed.

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