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It's an understatement to say goodbyes are tough. There's never an easy way to face the end of something good, but sometimes it's better to call it quits before things get stale.
Now that my last column is here, I have finally begun to accept I will no longer be pondering relationships and sex every week in an effort to entertain others. Instead, I will be forced to either keep my thoughts to myself or beg my friends to listen to me ramble for hours on end. Neither of these options excite me very much.
Although it was a difficult decision to make, my relationship with delaware UNdressed must come to an end. While I have had a blast writing my column, I know I have basically exhausted my topic ideas and that continuing to pump out sexy slogans and naughty body part nicknames could be nearly impossible. I fear that signing on for another year would be dangerous for both the column and for myself. In this situation, like in many real-life romantic relationships, it's better to quit while I'm ahead.
In seemingly good campus relationships, it's often difficult to foresee the future successes and hardships the couple may face. Like my partnership with UNdressed, there are many duos who would be better off ending this school year on a good note rather than trying to do a long-distance deal over the summer, risking an ugly ending. Sure, you may think your relationship can last through 3 months of distance, but trust me - it's difficult to keep a flame burning if it's not strong from the start. Putting your pair on hold would probably be better for your relationship and your friendship in the long run if you have any doubts at all about your ability to make it last.
The degree of doubt makes it easier to determine the proper course of action for your relationship. If you think you want to be with only this person for the rest of your life, and they feel the same about you, maybe breaking up for the summer isn't the right choice. By staying together you have to know that you both can handle the difficulties that come with a long-distance relationship. Jealousy, neediness and worrying all are magnified when you can't see your loved one whenever you please. If you have any doubt, maybe it's time to consider flying solo for the summer.
Think back on your time together as a couple - if you've fought a lot already, thought about breaking up multiple times or had the temptation to cheat, then continuing your relationship this summer is a bad idea. It would be much better to leave each other now, on a happy note, than have a screaming fight over the phone and end it mid-July. By pressing the stop button, at least you know it's a circumstantial break up, and not something that is a total deal breaker forever. This leaves things on an even keel and you could even have hopes to restart it next fall.
In most cases, it's better to leave when things are pretty, rather than when there is no other choice because the situation has gotten so ugly.
In my case, I know leaving The Review is going to be sad. I have thoroughly enjoyed every aspect of writing my column and being on staff, but like many relationships, mine is also one that's better to leave while still on good terms. I know what UNdressed and I had together, but now it's time for someone else to have this experience.
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